Kinky Salon is a sex-positive community based in San Francisco, founded in 2003 by Polly Pandemonium and Scott Levkoff. We have literally hosted hundreds of parties over the years at our rather glamorous private venue, and are now settled into a regular routine of once a month, on the 3rd Saturday.
Back in 2009 we shared all the stuff we had learned over our years of producing Kinky Salon in a series of workshops called ‘Booty Camp’ and since then we have been supporting new Kinky Salon’s sprouting up across the world! We license all our content under a Creative Commons license, and allow people (with a few caveats) to use our party science to replicate the vibe of our events. You can find Kinky Salon’s all over the world run by some fabulous communities using our science- check out: Austin, London, New York, Copenhagen, Amsterdam, Sacramento, Berlin and coming soon to Portland and Krakow, and a town near you. Click here to read more about the Global Kinky Salons… If you are interested in running your own Kinky Salon please contact firstname.lastname@example.org to find out what you need to do.
The parties are all run by volunteers, who support the event and participate because it’s simply too fun not to. If you are interested in learning more about how you can join in, the first step is to volunteer at a party or email email@example.com if you have a question.
Each party has a theme and a strict dresscode- please check the home page of this site to see what the scoop is for this month. In the Kinky Salon community we believe that fun=hot. Fact: If you wear something creative you will make more friends. The thing to remember is that it’s not about how cool or expensive your clothes are, we are working on a different scale here. For us, ridiculousness and humor are the traits we find sexy. If you show up in jeans, khakis or sportswear we won’t let you in.
There is an inclusiveness here which is rare in these kinds of parties- we never discriminate based on age, looks, relationship status, gender or sexual orientation. If you come with a PAL and follow our Charter then you are welcome
We were described quite accurately bySF Weekly:
“Guests contribute more than bodies and cash; they contribute time, talent, and ideas, and they support each other’s endeavors both creatively and sexually. Provocative costuming, stimulatory surroundings, and explicit erotic experiences might be anticipated, witnessed, and explored at every Kinky Salon, but the sexual aspects are so integrated into the epicurean fabric of the party — the music, the dancing, the photo booths, the slide shows, the toys, the decadent surroundings, and the capricious costuming — that it might actually go overlooked by anyone who came for a slightly less ribald night of creative commingling. The fact is, as sexy as it is, Kinky Salon is not about sex, it’s about community-building.”e are so
The Mission of Kinky Salon is to provide a safe space for people of all persuasions to explore their sexuality without fear of judgment. The space we have created is designed to be an oasis, where people can feel completely at ease. It is a rare alternative to sex clubs, which can often be intimidating or impersonal. We support creativity, personal growth and deepening of community connection as essential counterparts to sensual and sexual exploration.
A frequent misconception is that we just like getting dressed up and getting laid- that we are pure hedonists, in it for cheap thrills. I would not blame anyone for thinking that- from the outside that’s exactly what it looks like. But once you set foot in a Kinky Salon you can tell that there is something else going on here.
It starts with a vague realization that it’s not what you expected. There is something surprisingly friendly and fun loving about the crowd. The creativity and downright ridiculousness of the costumes is a great ice breaker, and something about being read the Charter when you arrive makes you feel like you will be safe here. Soon you are all brought together for the cabaret, where authenticity is valued over affectation and pretense. As the evening progresses, the experience of being surrounded by such open expression of sexuality feels surprisingly natural. Something you might have thought would be scary or intimidating is actually strangely familiar. Whether or not you actually end up getting in on in the play space, it doesn’t matter. Although sex has been woven into the fabric of the event, the act itself is almost an afterthought.
Our hope is that everyone who attends a Kinky Salon experiences a shift in their consciousness. Maybe through their negotiations in the playspace they learn something new about themselves or their partner. Maybe they release a long held perspective about gender or sexuality. Or perhaps they just let their hair down enough to really feel a sense of freedom and liberation. Our goal is to create a space that feels safe enough, and fun enough, and different enough from everyday life, that people try things outside their comfort zone.
We see the liberalization of sexuality as a means of personal transformation, and personal transformation as a means of cultural transformation. When you connect the dots, Kinky Salon is really about making the world a better place, one pervert at a time.