What is Kinky Salon?

The formula remains the same for virtual events, house parties, and our more traditional large scale events: Starting with the first invitation that goes out to announce the theme we begin the narrative and a story starts to unfold. We sometimes offer small art grants and encourage creative participation. The script for the night develops as participants sign up and bring their piece: a game, performance, sculpture, character, or experience created for the theme, which we weave together into a narrative that spans across multiple rooms in a non-linear experiential format.

On the night everyone who attends is in costume. Guests and performers interact without knowing who is part of our plan and who is just showing up and doing something creative. Some nights even we don’t know. There are erotic areas where performances and interaction are overtly sexual, including explicit sexual play between guests. The storyline reaches its peak with the cabaret, to facilitate a moment of acknowledgment: yes this is crazy, yes you are amazing, yes we love you. 

The goal is to transport people out of their everyday reality. Our hope is that everyone who attends a Kinky Salon experiences a shift in their consciousness. Maybe through their negotiations in the playspace they learn something new about themselves or their partner. Maybe they release a long held perspective about gender or sexuality. Or perhaps they just let their hair down enough to really feel a sense of freedom and liberation. We create a space that feels safe enough, and fun enough, and different enough from everyday life, that people try things outside their comfort zone.

Our events are run by teams of volunteers. Participating on a Kinky Salon team or being part of a KAMP (Kinky At My Place) has been compared to being on “Kinky Prom Committee.”  


During the pandemic, we took our events online and developed the website further to allow members to connect via messaging, dating, and video chat. We also train hosts for K.A.M.P. (Kinky At My Place): Small Kinky Salon house parties created by and for our members.

A Sampling of the 300+ Experiences We Have Created Since 2003